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By Copywriter Ashley Billings
I wish you would stop repeating back exactly what I just said only slightly rephrased. When I share an idea with you that you like, just say, “Good idea,” and leave it at that. Because when you take exactly what I just said and slightly rephrase it, your insecurity threatens my insecurity causing me to experience several emotions that I’m not comfortable with.
First of all, there’s no way you actually believe that you just said anything different from what I just said. It’s not like you changed the idea or added something to it, which are both completely acceptable by the way. Are you honestly so insecure that you have to feel like everything we come up with is your idea?
Second, what you are doing in this situation is referred to as a defense mechanism. Who exactly are you defending yourself from? If you haven’t noticed, I’m not holding a sword and challenging you to a duel. We are on the same team. Sometimes the ideas will come out of my mouth, and sometimes they’ll come out of yours. You just need to sit back and let the magic happen naturally.
Third, I’ll most likely respond with, “That’s what I just said.” After I say this, I will immediately feel asinine. I have now stooped to your level and because of this I am not only annoyed with you, but I’m also annoyed with myself.
Fourth, you should feel embarrassed. If it doesn’t seem like you feel embarrassed, I will create a very awkward tension in the air. This means I might have to whip out the old passive aggression.
And last, the best way for you to make up for what you’ve just done is to tell me how smart and hysterical I am, because I am also incredibly insecure and I’ll take approval from anyone who will give it to me.
Ashley Billings, the author of this piece, is a Freelance Copywriter who has worked with several local agencies including Crispin Porter + Bogusky, TDA, Cactus, and Factory Labs. She would also like to add that she loves her dog very much. Check out her site for a view of her work.